Many guys suggest to get drinks for a first date and I’ve been on one of these but it was so loud at the place we couldn’t hear one another. Another guy suggested an 8pm first date so I just decided I do not want to drink on dates either, I find coffee or something like tea better or just meeting up and I guess going to a museum or something like that to be better. But some guys grill me on why I don’t drink or say it’s boring/ do not answer me anymore when I suggest we just do something non alcoholic. It’s got to the point where I even said I won’t drink but it’s fine if they do and got some push back
I did mention I tell men that I do not drink and I won’t be, to let them know. And this doesn’t go over well
I usually do laid back dinner dates or coffee dates, walk around and get ice cream at a spot nearby if it’s going well.
This obviously depends on your city and area. I have like 3 first date places depending on the person
Coffee shop, Ice cream shop, diner. If they have a problem with a non-drinking date then maybe they are not the best match for you.
If a guy insists that you drink, congratulations! He has just weeded himself out and you have saved yourself from a bad date.
Guess we’re going rock climbing.
I had a guy take me to a Banksy exhibit. That was fun!
Find out what’s happening in your area such as markets, exhibits etc.
I’ve literally never been asked to get drinks for a first date. Always lunch or coffee.
We went bowling
You can bowl without drinking?
The secret is that nobody can bowl
We prefer to meet at a coffee shop. We don’t drink. If the coffee meeting goes well, we can go eat or get a room.
Well that escalated quickly
Well, either the meeting goes well, or the meeting goes REALLY well.
Who is we? Do you date as a couple?
Meeting someone sober is definitely different than influenced. I will say some people do it for nerves, moderation is important to me so I will not overshare if they say let’s go catch a drink. 1) it gives me a chance to see how they conduct themselves, do they overindulge, are they sloppy, belligerent, aggressive, obnoxious, friendly, warm? 2) you don’t have to share your lifestyle choice about drinking with them you can simply accept the date and decline to drink at the venue – then causally say I’m not a drinker, but I don’t mind if you do etc.