I (35f) had my new (now EX) boyfriend "Thomas" (38m) over this past weekend. He stayed roughly four days, and left back to his home city an hour away on Monday morning. That afternoon, I noticed my almost full bottle of Adderall was missing. Of course, I asked him if he had maybe accidentally taken it, but he denied doing so.
I have absolutely torn my house apart. Searched EVERY single place they could possibly be. They seemingly vanished into a black hole. To be clear, I am CERTAIN they are gone, and CERTAIN he took them. There is no other explanation.
After having the audacity to steal my prescription medication (I had only received it last Thursday, so i’m screwed the next 3 weeks), this genius decides to stop opening or responding to my messages. This isnt a case of "we went on one date, it didnt go well so there’s no need to talk again." We had "the talk" about making it official. He spent days in my home… my BED. I feel beyond violated.
I have given him the option of either returning my medication, or i would file a police report. He is on DUI probation, so even if he tossed my medication already and I never see it again, a positive drug test would likely get him in deep crap with his PO. He could also lose his job.
I have his full name, DOB, I know what he drives and where he works. Would I be the asshole if I filed a police report, then messaged his place of employment to let them know he’s a thief who is coming into work high on stimulants?
TLDR: new "boyfriend" stole my Adderall script. WIBTA if I filed a police report knowing he could go to jail and lose his job?
NTA for filing a report as you may need that to get a new script. But it’s crossing a line reporting him to his employer. That’s vengeful and YWBTA.
NTA to call the police but you cannot prove he was taking them personally before work so you don’t want to provide potentially false info. He could be selling them for all you know. I think if he gets charged his place of employment would find out that way.
NTA…YWBTAH if you DIDN’T call the police
NTA for filing a police report, but calling his employer isn’t up to you. If he happens to get fired because you filed a police report, that’s on him.
YWBTA for messaging his work, you don’t have any proof at all that he took them or that he’s going to work high. NTA for filing a police report because then they can investigate and find proof and whatever happens there could cause him to be fired and then you wouldn’t have be a part of that.
File a report. If he’s innocent he’ll be fine. If he’s a lying thieving drug addict who’s willing to risk his second chance at life for adderall then he’s deservedly screwed. And you can get a refill since yours was stolen. Nta
In the US at least this, unfortunately, depends on insurance coverage
NTA if you stop at the police. Don’t call his job. But definitely report the theft.
Police report, yes. Employer, no.
YWBTA File the police report so your insurance will cover a new refill and let the police do their thing.
This is the correct answer. Its a controlled substance. He could just as likely seen an opportunity to make cash as taken them for himself. If the bottle with your name on it shows up somewhere it shouldn’t be you want record that it wasn’t you. Learn from this & keep any drugs locked & out of sight when you have guests. Trust me, from experience, it brings out the worst in people you’d never suspect.
You are at high risk of losing your prescription if he is caught with them. Report them as stolen and cover yourself. NTA
She cannot get her 3 weeks of lost medication unless she makes a police report. It’s required if you claim your medication was stolen and you need your doctor to call a refill of your narcotic medication.
People who abuse their medications regularly report them stolen so they can get more, so precautions where you have consequences for lying are required by law. Prescription fraud is no small deal, so it makes you have something on the line, and clears the doctor because the medication is highly tracked by the DEA.
Quite honestly, you *have* to file a police report. It’s the only way you could possibly get a replacement for your prescription and if he is caught with your pills, with your name on the bottle, you could be prosecuted for selling them (which could cause you problems any time you need a controlled substance the rest of your life). And God forbid he or someone else overdoses with your prescription bottle on them, you could be charged in their death.