At my school (HS), you get to pick who your “walking partner” is for graduation, this is the person you basically sit with, walk with, and go up on stage after/before.
My Girlfriend of 2 years 100% wants to do it together, but I already had in mind to pick my best friend (M) of 14 years. We’ve stuck together through basically everything that’s happened growing up and I thought it would be nice since we are going to most likely part ways while my Girlfriend and I will be closer.
WIBTA if I choose my friend?
Edited for clarity
Just out of curiosity, is the best friend male or female?
Male
I don’t think you would be the ah at all tbh your gf should understand you want to walk with your longest and closest friend. You can walk with whoever you want and no matter who you chose you aren’t an ah. Just tell your gf you really wanna do this one last thing with your friend before yall part ways for college/life etc.
Who is the best friend picking?
I would pick the best friend. The girlfriends will come and go. The best friend is for life. NTA
NAH, but think carefully about what you want. You and your girlfriend may very well NOT be closer if you choose your friend. It depends on your specific relationship, but a lot of significant others don’t want to come in second. Now, you may well break up and then the memory of going with a friend will be a touch brighter, but if you want your relationship to go well, you have to transition your thinking a bit to ‘us’ rather than ‘me’. There are no assholes, just priorities and choices. Other people have feelings, and you might want to talk about things before assuming your choice would be ‘fine’ with someone else.
Edit: Just relaized by timeline you’re in HS. Honestly…I’d go friend. Nothing I said is wrong, but playing the odds…it might be a better choice.
NTA. Hate to say it, but the chances that you marry your girlfriend aren’t guaranteed. While I don’t look back on my high school graduation pictures with nostalgia, I still would cringe if I had to look back at them and see my ex. A best friend is more indicative of your educational past though and will be better for memory-sake.
Yes that’s what I was thinking but it feels rude to just come out and say it to my s/o
Good luck with gf if you don’t pick her.
If she understands and lets you walk with bf. She’s a keeper.
Where do you live that a class doesn’t all sit together with everyone else in the audience??
YWNBTAH that’s lovely to walk with your best friend
NTA – This may be hard to hear at your age, but the girl you’re with now will most likely NOT be the person you spend the rest of your life with. Chances are, your friend will be in your life a lot longer. Go with the friend.
NAH
Your girlfriend is 100% valid for wanting to walk together. You are 100% valid for wanting to walk with your best friend. Whether or not she would be TA depends entirely on how she reacts to your choice, and of course there are ways you could break it to her that would make you TA, but based on the tone of your post I don’t think that’s likely. Some of the responses here are basically to the tune of “You’ll probably break up anyway so go with the friend” and I have never liked that line of thinking even though I agree that you should go with what you want to do.
For my own perspective – I got married a few weeks ago. Something about relationships that a lot of people assume incorrectly is that you absolutely are not obligated to do everything together – obviously the foundation of a good relationship is that you WANT to do most things together, but that’s not to the exclusion of everybody else. This isn’t a competition between your GF and your best friend, it’s you having grown up with someone and wanting to cross the finish line together in a moment that really cements all the two of you have been through together. And while your girlfriend may be disappointed, she will hopefully understand – especially if you tell her what you said here, about the fact that you feel you may not get to see as much of your best friend going forward and want to have this time.
It is nearly always better to be honest about what you want to do, and then work through any feelings together. Best of luck!
NTA. Sorry, but you’ve known your friend for so long, and you are childhood friends, so it makes sense for you to walk with him. I think your girlfriend should be understanding of this, and I’m sure she has other friends too.