I understand that as a friend, we sometimes help each other by covering up them.
However, I dislike it when my friend include me in their lies without asking me.
Example 1: A friend’s bf asked her out in weekends. She wanted to stay alone, so she told her bf she needs to help me to move. She informed me that she lied, and she needs me and my bf to cover up in case her bf asked.
However, this lie sounds so stupid to me, as I will never ask a female friend to help my moving.
Example 2: She invites me and some other friends for a picnic. After all the arrangement and one day prior to the event, she argues with her bf and she did not want to go. She told the other friends ‘OP’s not in a good mood, she doesn’t want to go, so we cancel the event.’
I was not happy with that, because my bf and I had switch holiday to suit her date, ends up she use my name to cancel the event, and other friends might think I create those trouble?
WIBTA if I told her I don’t like her to include me in her lies? Or is it a ‘responsibility’ as a friend?
Nta you’re friend is weird idk why you are still friends with her
NTA. A true friend would not be expecting you to take the blame for them. Set a clear boundary. And if they ignore it, they are not a friend worth having.
Nah you’re good. Friends don’t casually throw your name under the bus to avoid their bf. That picnic thing alone would’ve pissed me off too. Setting a boundary here is normal not dramatic.
Your friend needs to learn about accountability.
NTA. Tell her you won’t be her scapegoat anymore.
NTA. That’s not “helping”, that’s being a scapegoat. She’s throwing you under the bus whenever she doesn’t want to take responsibility for how flakey she is. She sounds like a child saying “my mom said I couldn’t go” when they don’t want to hang out with someone. I don’t know how old y’all are, but presumably too old for this kind of behavior to get a pass.
If I were you, I’d ask her to stop blaming you for her cancelations. And next time she does this, you tell everyone the truth. You don’t want to be getting blamed for constant cancelations.
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With friends like that, you won’t ever need an enemy.
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But you will be of your cover up for your friend. Your word is your bond. Model integrity for your friend, by telling her you won’t cover for her lies.
She needs to grow up and start taking responsibility for her actions. Being a scapegoat for someone’s small lies can set a precedent that sometimes leads to getting involved in big or serious messes down the road. Nip this in the bud.
NTA.You’re allowed to set a boundary and say “don’t use my name to dodge your boyfriend or cancel plans.” Friendship doesn’t come with a free pass to mess with your reputation or schedule.
NTA.
Easiest way to go is to tell your “friends” that keep doing this that while you won’t dob them in, that you will not lie for them if you are asked directly. Let them pick someone else to use for their BS.
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She isn’t a friend. She is just using you as a excuse to get away with her lies. She is clearly a habitual liar therefore she can’t be trusted.
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This person isn’t a friend. Either call her on her behavior, or wait until she uses you as a scape goat again and communicate to people that you have no idea what she’s talking about (text the friend group that you are feeling fine and had no idea SHE wanted to cancel the event).
NTA. She is no friend of yours. She is just using you to get out of doing stuff she doesn’t want to do. You need to drop her like a hot potato. Best of luck and stand your ground. Your worth it