A few weeks ago, I(24F) found out my cousin, Cousin M (40ish F) is not coming to Thanksgiving but her son(15M) is coming. I didn’t think much about it till her sister, A (40ishF, oldest sister) was being overly polite to her in the family gc.
So, today I got a call from cousin A (40ishF) about a holiday gift for her so. And I made the mistake of asking if they were fighting. A was like ‘not really, I have just given up with M. I don’t hate her but I am not going out of my way anymore.’ It would have been fine there but A talks alot. She started going on about how in every situation M makes A the issue even when she’s not.
Stay with me I know it’s alot. One incident stuck out to me. M bashing A on Facebook during 2020, I always fact check A because A has been known to sometimes manipulate the truth a bit.
So I went of Facebook to find the post. I found it, or like what was left of it just like a hidden post that you can only see the comments on. M had blocked certain people from seeing the post.
I hate that they are acting like this, it’s silly and immature.
With that being said, would I be the asshole if I side with A on this?
I feel like I might be because I didn’t even talk to M. I just kinda looked at her Facebook and decided
For those of you telling me to mind my own business or whatever: You’re right.
However, I had already been involved from Easter because in M’s eyes A made the whole family not go to Easter at her house because she told everyone that a strange guy was going to be there. Then on Halloween M was left out of going to the store with us. I only asked (admittedly) because I was being nosey but also because I love my cousins and I wanted to make sure she was mad for a good reason.
Info: why do you have to take anyone’s side? It’s not your problem. Stay out of it.
But what would AITA be if everyone minded their own business? We would have nothing to read.
Why do you need to choose a side? Just stay out of their drama.
NTA but why do you have to take sides? It’s their conflict. If M isn’t coming for Thanksgiving, then she isn’t coming. I have cousins who haven’t spoken with each other in over half a century. In fact, one wasn’t even acknowledged as existing in another’s obituary. I chose not to even pry into why. Sometimes neutrality is best.
Why would you take a side? If you don’t know what’s gone on, it was because it was none of your business. Why complicate your life?
If you stay out of it you’re NTA
For inserting yourself in other people’s drama when there is no need for you to do so – YTA sorry.
YTA for thinking you need to take a side. Drop the drama. Have fun at TG.
Yta for inserting yourself. Drop the drama. Let them deal with it