My daughter bought me a necklace with a little charm on it and I wear it constantly, however the chain has a ‘safety chain’ bit on the end and the charm keeps getting caught up on it when the necklace tends to rotate.
I wear a second chain and often have to keep moving the clasp back to the back of my neck, the necklace my daughter bought also does this, but I’m filled with worry every time as it gets caught on the charm and I’m scared it’s going to break the chain as it’s quite difficult to get back.
So would I be the AH if I swapped the charm to a different chain?
No. Just tell your daughter you love the necklace but are worried that the chain is going to break because it keeps getting caught. Tell her you’re putting the chain away to keep it safe, but that you love the pendant so are going to put it on a different chain so you can keep wearing it daily.
Exactly what I was going to say.
NTA. Surely she can understand that you want to keep the necklace safe and that’s why you’re changing it?
Nta. Personally I think the charm is the most important part of a necklace (when the necklace has one), and she probably picked it out specifically for the charm. If it’s uncomfortable I see nothing wrong with switching it, and I personally would not be offended
NTA. Just tell her/show her and maybe show her you’re putting it in a special place in your jewelry box if you have one. My mom had a little section in hers that’s just stuff she inherited from grandma. It’d be an honor if I bought her something that she stored in that compartment. Maybe even wear the chain sans charm on occasion as a 3rd necklace on special occasions.
Just explain it to her and change it
NTA. You can handle this a couple of different ways. You can tell her you are getting a new chain, why, and because you don’t want to lose the pendant, which you wear every day. OR, if you have a birthday coming up soon, you can ask for a new chain for your birthday and give her the same reasons why.
NTA – Don’t point it out to her, and she probably won’t notice. If she does, just say you needed to fix it.
Nope not at all, the charm is the important part.
NTA – If she asks share, I adore it and wear it every day and add you’re avoiding the chain breaking when tangled with the safety location
NTA. I think it’s sweet that you even wonder this. Your daughter is lucky to have you.
NTA. Just get a similar looking chain but with the clasp you want and I doubt she would even notice.
Obv NTA, but there is a kind of clasp that you can get, especially for multiple necklaces, that kind of links them together and stops the rotating thing….I don’t know what they’re called though!
INFO: If you’re that worried, why not ask your daughter about it?