My girlfriend and have been in a relationship for half a decade, and during this relationship, I became close with a lot of her friends. I considered these people my close friends, and while I hate sounding transactional, I did a lot more to these people than the other way, which I was fine with, because I thought they were my close friends.
One of these friends had some issues with her credit and she had a lot of debt to pay back on, so to help her with it, when she was looking for a place to stay, I was able to convince my parents to have her stay in a condo that they own (I help them manage it since they don’t live close by) and offer her extremely low rent (barely covers the property tax and the strata fee).
I broke up with my girlfriend when I found out that she cheated on me twice during a rough patch of our relationship, and later understood that everyone in this friend group except me knew about it, including this friend staying in my parent’s condo (who was one of these first people who knew, and knew at least 6 months before I did).
I was deeply hurt by how my so called friends acted, and their excuses of “we didn’t know if you were in a open relationship”, and “we thought it was none of our business” didn’t sit right with me. If I were in their place, I would tell someone who I consider a close friend that their SO cheated on them.
So, I cut off all my friends, and blocked them, and I told this “friend” that I won’t be renewing the lease at the current terms, and she can either move out or start paying market rent after the lease expires. She still had 3 months left on the lease, and she moved out at the end of the term.
AITH for doing this? My reasoning was that I thought this person was a close friend, which it appears is not how she saw me.
NTA
No point in helping people who stab you in the back
Money is money, and friendship is friendship, and they are separate.
You will be NTA even if you will start to change the market price without any special reason.
This is my opinion also! I can’t believe his parents are ok with the deal he has given the “friend”.
The condo is paid off, and it wasn’t easy to convince them.
I know it wasn’t the best economical decision, but I knew this person for as long I’ve known my girlfriend, and she and my ex-girlfriend were childhood friends. I saw an opportunity to help a friend out for a couple of years when the last tenant of my parent’s condo left, and took it.
You might have been friends with them, but their loyalty was always to her.
NTA. You’re not obligated to keep giving special treatment to someone who wasn’t honest with you when it mattered. You didn’t break the lease, you didn’t raise the rent suddenly, you just ended the ‘friend rate’ once it was clear the friendship wasn’t mutual. That’s completely reasonable.
Nta friends deserve all this and more
NTA, you don’t owe anything to someone who was not your friend anything. Great you are moving on from that group,
NTA, you don’t owe anything to someone who was not your friend anything. Great you are moving on from that group
NTA
In fact I’d go farther and deny any opportunity to renew. I don’t want that kind of tenant.
NTA. They want friend treatment but don’t give friend treatment back.
You are NTA. Decisions and actions have consequences.
NTA. She lost the “friends and family” discount when she stopped being a friend. You gave her plenty of time to sort out her business. I don’t see the problem here.
NTA. You were doing her a favor. Now you’re not. Simple.
NTA.
She was getting the Friends and Family discount.
She’s no longer a friend, so she can pay full price.