I’m 24F and still living at home. I’ve been saving money for a few years so I can eventually move out. I don’t make a lot, so it’s been slow and I’ve had to say no to a lot of things to build it up. My family knows I’m careful with money. My sister is 29 and has been having money problems for a while. She quit her job last year and has been picking up random work here and there, but nothing consistent. A few days ago she came to me saying she needed help paying some bills. I told her I didn’t really have money to spare. She then said she already told our parents that I’d help her. I was honestly caught off guard. When I said no again, she got upset and said I’m the only one with savings and that I can “always save again later.” Now my parents keep bringing it up. They aren’t forcing me, but they keep saying things like I’m young, my sister is stressed, and family should support each other. The house has been awkward since then and my sister barely talks to me. I feel bad because she’s struggling, but I also feel like she assumed she was entitled to my money and didn’t respect the effort it took me to save it. AITA for saying no?
NTA. Peak entitlement from your sister. Hold your ground–if you say yes now, they’re going to see you as a cash cow forever.
I helped my brother and he never paid me back. If you do give her something make it small and when she does not pay it back you can always say “maybe if you pay me back what you already owe me (with interest) I might consider it” Best money I ever spent.
NTA – your sister is using you, don’t allow it. She got herself into this mess, she needs to find her own way out. You are young, but also sound like the most mature person in the family.
Move out now. That’ll eliminate your extra cash.
Or just tell your parents that the first line responders in protecting family is parent to child, not sibling to sibling.
And whether you’re the asshole or not doesn’t really matter.
NTA. If she likes money, she can seek steady employment.
NTA but you might want to speed up your timeline to move out.
Sounds like you need your savings even more so you can move away from these arseholes. And if your parents care so much they can stump up for your feckless sister.
I don’t see how her telling your parents is at all relevant to the decision?
You said no. As you should. Stick to your guns and don’t give her a penny.
How ever much you would decide would not be enough in her eyes and she wouldn’t rest until you have nothing left.
NTA. Keep saving and making smart financial decisions
Never share with anyone that you are saving money.
NTA. You are young, yes. When you’re older saving money becomes harder so it’s best to do it now.
You said no, it’s your money, and if they use the “but she’s family” or “a real/good sister would…” as arguments, ask them when your parents stopped being her family and what a real/good parent would do.
Move out ASAP
Nta.
Your sis quit her job with no other job lined up. She acted irresponsibly. Can she just not move back home?
If she is bailed out now, she will just keep acting irresponsibly.
I would give her nothing!
Just to check it’s in an account opened after you turned 18 right?
They arn’t pressuring you but if opened under your parents some bank still give access
then let your parents give her the cash. Your sister is struggling because she is irresponsible. You don’t quit your job and then expect someone else to pick up the slack.
One question to your parents: if family should help each other, why don’t *they* give money to your sister?
NTA