With the amount of bending over you have to do when seniors and coworkers throw disrespect at you and you just have to take it because you need a roof over your head? And your manager has the authority to write you up for whatever he wants if you even look at him/her wrong? And your survival is on the line?
How do you justify it to yourself without resorting to fear? I feel like I constantly have to walk on eggshells for stupid reasons. Your boss says hi and then you say "hi" quietly, because idk you’ve just been in your cubicle all day, you’re feeling quiet. But he didn’t hear you. 10 minutes later he calls you to his office and now you’re on a PIP. Now you have a panic attack because you need this job.
This isnt just this job, it’s every g0dd4mn job. Not just bosses, but could also be some c0rnball who s*cks off the boss and wipes his mouth afterwards.
How do you deal with it mentally?
For context, I work in audit. So I’m not sure if stem fields have more focus on subject matter and less on soft skills?
I live in the real world. Not a wanna be alpha bro red pill wet dream.
Ya but some guys see red when they get mad…
I’ve never been in a work situation like the one you described.
I don’t know what industry you work in but that’s not every corporate job. I worry that if you think it is, there maybe some behaviors you have causing issues.
I don’t resort to fear because fear leads to hate and hate leads to suffering.
Understood, Master Yoda
You get your resume together and find a new job. Companies/bosses like this are not worthy of having good employees.
lol.
PIP means look for another job.
Leave the poison culture places behind.
If you can’t find a place in your industry that has a sane culture, find a niche your employer doesn’t serve well and go off on your own. Even better if you become a vendor for the idiots you currently work for.
About 12 years ago, I was put on a PIP for some nonsense reason, with reviews scheduled every three months. I felt the same way the entire time, but I made it my mission to get off that PIP and then walk away on my own terms. My performance skyrocketed ; I ended up ranking #2 in Ontario.
My manager eventually scheduled a meeting to discuss taking me off the PIP. It was actually productive: I received a performance award, and the PIP was officially removed from my record.
The very next day, I submitted my resignation and moved into a better role at a different company.
Fast-forward eight years; that company ended up being acquired by the same organization I had originally left. I stayed for a year, realized it was the same old issues all over again, and quit… again.
Sounds like a bad place to work. But honestly unless you are a cowboy or something then the less ego you have the better off you will be. Do job, get paid, go on vacation.
I have never experienced anything like that or heard about it from anyone I know. Maybe it’s different in different industries or maybe you and I view situations differently?
This sounds like you have some kind of social anxiety.
I don’t have these sort of intrusive thoughts where I’m guessing or assuming that other people have malicious intentions or are judging me constantly.
I’d recommend seeking therapy for this.
By not falling into the role of having a small personality at the office.
If youre always you- and you happens to be honest and a maybe a little forced upbeat – your regular interactions set the tone for future ones.
If you become a mouse youll be stuck as a mouse.
This guy had to censor himself in his own post. He’s a mouse.