I’m unsure if anyone has ever felt this way, but my mom is really supportive, etc. But in a very predictable way. It’s always the same advice, with the same I love you, the same goodnight, the same questions. I want to be grateful for it.. but sometimes it just, pisses me off.
It’s like, I’m so tired of seeing "goodnight I love you! <3" every night. Not every day is a great day, maybe I’m deep into trying to figure something out for myself. It just feels repetitive – maybe a "you’re doing great" would be something but I’m getting really tired of the I love you texts.
Could this be psychologically holding me back in a time I need to let go of my parents and face my destiny? It feels like it gives me this pain of the past, like I’m stuck there or something when I get that I love you text. It almost never makes me feel good, even though I tell myself I should.
Just be grateful, you’ll miss it and her soon enough
This. OP take it from me – your parents are not around forever. I’m 5 years older than you, and have already lost my father. I thought I had another 20+ years. Nothing is guaranteed.
Nothing about your mother telling you she loves you, and wishing you a good night is holding you back. Though if you’re getting serious negative vibes for it – maybe consider therapy to understand the resentment you’re feeling.
I’m 28 and both of my parents are already dead. So true.
Treasure it because this is only temprorary. Once she’s gone forever, you’ll miss it forever.
Also, I wish my mum does that. I wish my mum expresses her love like that. I don’t even know whether my mum really loves me. I wish I can have your mum.
One day they’ll stop and you’d give anything for one more.
Don’t let society shame you for getting love from your family, one day she won’t be here.
As long as you make your own decisions as an independent adult all is well.
Brother I say this with love. Cherish every one of those texts. Life is about time. Your time with your mother is running out, even if it’s 30 years from now, you’ll want every minute back when it’s gone. Loving your family is part of being a man, so love, and accept her love. Peace be with you.
Bro. Save some of those messages. I have a voicemail from my dad, he passed in ’21.
I listen to it when I’m feeling down.
This is so sweet ❤️ I have a voicemail from my grandma from 2016! She passed away in 2021. I love hearing her voice 😇
Be grateful you have a mom who loved you so much
It’s not holding you back man. She loves you dearly and cares about you. It might seem silly because society makes you think it is but there isn’t anything wrong with this.
Maybe if she was packing your lunch for you and barging into your home unannounced to make sure your underwear is folded I could see having a conversation with her. Just a couple texts per day though…be thankful that she loves you and isn’t ashamed to tell you.
She loves you and you’ll always be her baby. This doesn’t make you a baby. Just accept her love for what it is and live your life as a man.
They’re words. If those words are holding you back, that’s a you problem, not a her problem.
Trust me, when she’s gone, you’ll beg for those texts.
Enjoy as long as you can and, if you can find a way to save them somehow…do so.
my mom talked shit about my wife to me a few years after I got married because she was Catholic, my mom was atheist and considered religious people fools at best
this was after 20 some years of shit she gave me for being a bad son
it effectively ended our relationship and I distanced myself from her for the next 30 years
I stayed in her life to keep the peace for my brother’s sake as he’d have been caught in the middle and he didn’t deserve that
she got old, weak, sick and died
I knew once she got old there was no rectifying our relationship because she didn’t feel she had done anything wrong and I stopped trying
I didn’t cry. 8 years later, I still haven’t and I’m not holding out much hope.
I’ve been to her grave once, maybe twice
I don’t miss her
I’m not happy she’s dead but I’m relieved beyond words that I don’t have to put up with her anger, bitterness and hatred anymore.
you just be fucking grateful you got a parent who doesn’t keep a running list your failures, trot them out each time you get together and trash every decision you’ve made as an adult