so for context, I (19yo F) and my long time friend (18yo F) decided to be roommates to make housing cheaper at uni. my friend (N) doesn’t have a car, and didn’t receive as much financial aid as me, so a car isn’t happening anytime soon for her.
At first car sharing didn’t bother me, but she continues to put my car in parking spots that could literally get me towed whenever she drives, and quote frankly neither of us have the money to pay those fees. First, N parked in a parking zone at my uni that scans and tickets you. she played dumb, I made her pay anyway. this semester she parked my car in clinic tow zone (I don’t have a clinic pass). also when she drives I don’t think shes aware of her surroundings/signs and road rages. Im thinking about telling her no more driving because she isn’t observant, but that would also make her short of transportation at times im at work. I would also be more responsible of picking up/dropping off unless she finds another way (we live 10ish minute drive off campus) WIBTA?
NTA. She hasn’t shown she’d be worthy of the trust of letting her borrow the car.
NTA. Your roommate has demonstrated that she can’t be trusted with a car. But you shouldn’t be responsible for driving her places when it is not convenient for you. She can take transit, car service or walk.
NTA if she wanted to use the car, she should’ve done so responsibly.
Is she even on the insurance for your car, and/or is she paying for insurance in your car? Is she paying any of the loan for your car? Is she paying you anything to use your car? If no to everything then NTA she has shown she cannot be trusted with a vehicle and especially YOUR vehicle which YOU pay everything for.
Is your roommate insured to drive your car? You could get in a lot of trouble if she hits someone, and she sounds like a driver who will eventually hit someone.
Keep on and you’ll both be without a vehicle. NTA. Nobody would even ask me to drive my car because they already know the answer. Well nobody except my mother, she’s the only person allowed. You get my point tho.
NTA
Tell her, no more driving because she is NOT on your insurance and your parents said, NO. So you aren’t lying, tell them she is driving and see what they say. I bet you they will come unglued LOL.
Stop letting her use it immediately. If she destroys it she doesnt have the money to buy you a new one. NTA.
It’s your car. Do what you want. You also don’t have to be the one to drive her around all the time
NTA, with one caveat.
Tell her when she still has time to plan alternatives for her next trip. At the moment, she has reason to expect it will be available; it would be a dick move to wait till she asks for the keys before you let her know her access has been revoked.
NTA. It’s crazy to lend something as expensive as a car, particularly since you know perfectly well that she is at the very least incurring expensive parking fines.
You are also not responsible for picking her up or dropping her off. If she doesn’t have a car, she has to figure out how to get around on her own, maybe walking or public transportation. If neither of those are practical she needs to find somewhere to live where they are possible. I’ve spend long periods of my life without a car and like many people who didn’t have a car, I never depended on friends for free routine transportation.
Your longtime friend isn’t much of a friend if she doesn’t care about your car and what a ticket would cost you or for that matter damage to your car if she wrecks it. I struggle to understand why you feel you owe something to her when she literally doesn’t care about you at all. Your friendship seems pretty toxic. NTA
YTA You’re not responsible for her transportation anywhere. You should’ve never put yourself in that position
Guess who else isnt going to have a car?
You, when she crashes yours and because she isnt insured you get nothing.